Speakeasy: A Night of Erotic Conversation

‘I’m going to a sex party!’ I told everyone I met. All right, so it wasn’t that kind of sex party. Rather, I was heading to the first ever Speakeasy: A Night of Erotic Conversation, hosted by erotic author Daphne Nevada.

The night was billed as ‘a night of sophisticated debauchery’. Cocktails and canapes would go hand-in-hand with three sexy conversational topics. Who, I wondered, would go to such an evening? My friends and I thought we knew: middle-aged swingers. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

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At The Plus Ones, we love uncovering the erotic events happening in Melbourne: a Full Moon Fetish party at a feminist sex shop; an art opening involving naked people getting wax poured on them; and of course, Sexpo. So when the invitation came to spend my Saturday night discussing sex with a room full of strangers, I leapt at the chance.

The erotic speakeasy is the idea of Daphne Nevada, an author whose offerings are ‘Tasteful Erotica for the Modern Equalitarian’. The inaugural $75 event was at Harley House (formerly La Chinesca), an underground bar off Exhibition and Collins. We had the back room to ourselves: all dark lighting and velvet banquettes around a few tables. Limited to 15 people, it was indeed an intimate, and casual, event. We sat wherever we wanted, with a few folks switching tables during the night so as to talk to everyone.

Daphne announced the three topics, letting us discuss them however we wished:

  • Sexual education in primary school, matched with a Pisco Sour
  • ‘Best of Times, Worst of Times’, paired with a spiced Mojito
  • Sex in culture and the media, with an Old Fashioned

Of course, we didn’t stick entirely to these topics. We branched off, mulling over everything from our first orgasms (with a second person in the room, that is), to trends in pubic hair. Later on in the bathroom, I even got to hear the graphic account of one guest’s sexcapades the previous night (and that morning) with a Tinder date.

So who were these people? I was surprised to find that the vast majority were women in their early-to-mid 20s. The women at my table had orientations ranging from straight to asexual. (Yes, asexual people can enjoy an erotic evening, too.) There were also a few gay men. This, of course, leads me to assume that straight men and lesbians must not like sex. Perhaps a topic for a future Erotic Speakeasy?

By the end of the evening, we were all having such a great time that the majority of folks stayed for another hour. I’m sure the cocktails helped a few folks, but with such a warm, welcoming environment –and highbrow conversation starters – it was impossible not to have fun.

Co-founder of The Plus Ones, Theresa wonders what are the other randomly amazing underground events she no doubt be able to experience in 2016.

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Disclosure: The Plus Ones were invited guests of Daphne Nevada.
Photo credit: Malin Alfredsson.